Stronger are the Broken…

Hemingway once said, “We are stronger in the places we’ve been broken.” I have found this to be true.

As I sat in the dark hospital room watching my newly awoken husband stare at the wall, my mother-in-law turned to me. It had been four days since the accident. Four days since he’d smiled, eaten or even said a word. Four days since everything changed.
We were sitting in our fixed seats on the bench of the room, both waiting. For what, I don’t know. Improvement, change, anything that suggested he was still there, still him. The blinds were pulled shut and the lights were off because early on, the brightness of the world hurt his head and eyes, like he was constantly struggling to wake up.

She said, “You will come out of this stronger. You will be an Amazon woman when this whole thing is through.”

I didn’t believe her. I didn’t want to be stronger. I didn’t want any of it. I would have sacrificed a lifetime of strength for the chance to rewind, to go back to before. But that’s the funny thing about strength. It’s not really a choice. You don’t decide to be strong, you just are. You get through it whether you want to or not. And in my case, I had two very real reasons to get through it, to be strong; my boys. Then, five years old and five months old, they needed me. My husband was in limbo, and there was no guarantee he would ever come back.

It’s been 4 ½ years since that day. And now I can say that like Hemingway, my mother-in-law was right. I am stronger. But here’s the thing we didn’t expect:

my husband’s stronger too.

About G. Hayden Forest

I'm a writer living in the Pacific Northwest. I write YA Adult and for children because adults are boring and take themselves way too seriously.
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10 Responses to Stronger are the Broken…

  1. Ke says:

    This was beautiful! You are strong and such a great writer.

  2. Keely says:

    Beautifully and insightfully written G.

  3. Janelle says:

    This is beautiful! What a way to release such pain and triumph…Truly moving words! You are so very talented!!

  4. cami says:

    You are absolutely an amazing woman Janelle. Your writing is so incredible. You have a way with words that most people wish they had especially me. I cant imagine going through what u and your family has but u have truly been an inspiration. Family is the most important thing. I wish for you, nate and your darling boys the world. Best of wishes for the years to come.

  5. daily life impressions says:

    this is true…. you never know how strong you are before you have to be strong…….inspiring blog, I will follow…

  6. Claire Johnston says:

    Ginelle – this is Claire, your esthetician from some time back. Read about you and your book in the “Columbian,” and just wanted to give you three cheers! You are helping so many by doing this. Best of luck to you and yours.

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