In 2008, my husband suffered a traumatic brain injury. He was weeks shy of his 30th birthday. At the time, I knew nothing of the brain or the effects such an injury would have on our lives. I honestly thought he would just snap out of it. It has been 4 ½ years since the day that forever changed our family and I finally feel strong enough to open up about the daily struggles we have faced.
There are many blogs dedicated to brain injury, usually written by brain injury survivors or their caregivers. I write this blog, however to give a voice to the forgotten victims of brain injury; the children. I can’t possibly be the only one co-parenting with a brain injury survivor. The ripples of a brain injury are lifelong and vast, affecting so many lives other than the injured.
This blog is my journey through it all while raising two boys along the way…

9 Responses to About

  1. nichola says:

    I am so happy to have found your blog i wish i could contact you. my partners tbi was january this year, we have a 3 year old and a 8 months old (at time of accident) every word you write is me it could be me you are talking about. I am going to order your book although not sure how long it will take to get to me we live in the UK my 3 year old hasnt seen her daddy yet becuase he has had medical problems and was in a coma for 10 weeks (her daddy is in the army so she is used to him being away) Im not sure if im allowed to leave my email address here if not please delete it but i would love to hear from you Thanks Nichola x nichola_martin20@hotmail.com

  2. chris says:

    I look forward to getting your book, what state are you all in, I see battleground, im in Olympia, wa 🙂 I was in a minor rearend accident, but suffered a tbi and have all kinds of issues, short term memory , learning, reading etc… plus physical damage. I have 3 kids, that have been great support for since the wreck a year ago, two which were in the back seat, but not injured thank god! Well take care 🙂


    • Thanks so much, Chris! We are also in WA, not too far from Olympia. How have your kids handled your TBI? Do they know? See differences? Do you have emotional issues as well? I hope my book helps.

  3. Monica says:

    It is as if I were writing this. So great full to stumble across this. My husband was injured 4 years 2 months ago and suffers from TBI. We have four children, it has been a very dark and long road that leaves you to think you are the only one on earth going thru such a tragiduty. My husband doesn’t respond to my children in such a way as yours. Your thoughts were so uplifting to me, please continue to post them.

    • Thanks so much, Monica. This blog has also helped me to realize that I am not alone in this dark journey. Thanks for reaching out to me. After taking time off to get some things in order, I am now ready to start posting again! Hoping to reach others like you and I.

  4. Selena says:

    I have just found and started to read your blog, it’s 6months since my partner of 14yrs suffered a massive brain injury and we have just in the past 8 weeks come back together to start living as a family (with 3 children) with our new situation. You write so well and what you write rings so true to me that it brings tears to my eyes. This is the first time that I have found someone else whom actually knows and understands first hand what this journey entails!

    • Selena, Thank you for your kind words. As personal as it is, I am always grateful for my blog when people like you find it. I know your family is quite different now. Can I ask how old you children are? How your partner suffered his injury? If you ever want to talk, feel free to e-mail me directly. Thanks again!

  5. Selena says:

    We have a son 8yrs, two daughters 4 and 6yrs. My partner, James, suddenly collapsed and became unconscious one sunday afternoon at home, he had suffered a ruptured brain aneurysm which bled into his brain (subarachnoid haemorrhage), as a complication of the bleed two days later he also suffered a stroke (middle cerebral infarct). The swelling and pressure on his brain was so severe that they removed almost half his skull, which has only recently been replaced. His brain injury is right sided.

    It was so fitting for me to read that you felt your husband had died the day of his injury, as that is what I have recently been realising myself. Only recently have I begun to realise our losses and grieve for them.

    I don’t think I even realised that these things happened before and certainally didn’t understand anything about brains and brain injury! There seems to be quite a lack of information, I am certainally struggling to find information beyond the basic medical facts, information that is practical and relivant to living to with a brain injury, co-parenting and having a relationship post brain injury. It leaves me thinking 1. people don’t usually live through this and or 2. they don’t continue to be part of the family?! It was in searching for some practical information that I found your blog, which I am still reading. Thank you, I will probably will be in contact.

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